Everyone gets negative sometimes. But what happens when negativity is what you are all about?
"I'm too fat."
"This is never going to work."
"I'll try, but that's the best I can do, I guess."
"Why is everyone against me?"
"I hate my life."
If thoughts such as these come into your head once in awhile, that's normal. Everyone feels down sometimes. The key word here is SOMETIMES. But when these thoughts are perpetually in your head, you are being way too negative.
Negativity, or being pessimistic, can be defined as a state of mind where the person places more weight on negative rather than positive situations, outcomes, experiences, information etc etc. In layman terms when you hand the person an apple, they will assume that the apple is rotten rather than sweet.
Here, some people may ask: So where does negativity come from? This is really a "chicken or the egg first?" question. Does it start with people possessing a negative state of mind first which actually causes things around them to go wrong? Or does it start with things going wrong first which causes people to become negative and then the spiral starts?
There are some people who, the moment they are born, are faced with pain and suffering many of us cannot even imagine. There are children born with conditions like Sirenomelia, which is also known as the mermaid syndrom, who were only expected to live for a few months. Imagine being born into this world and before you can even learn to speak you have already been given a "dateline" to your life; now is that a depressing situation or what? There are children born into families where their parents are not there for them or downright abuse them, be it sexually or emotionally or physically. These children tend to develop trauma and dissociation. Such cases such as children like Beth Thomas, show children with no conscience and no emotinal attachment to other humans due to childhood trauma, abuse and lack of love. These people were practically born into negativity, and people will say that in this case negativity attacked them first.
And then there are normal everyday humans, born into normal and whole families and one fine day they write a suicide note to their parents and jump to their deaths. I won't say that their lives are perfect. There will be, what I like to call, "down-times" in everyone's lives and perhaps they had one "down-time" too many. The negativity that comes at these people come later, but that doesn't make it less destructive. In these cases, people will start saying that it's the person who has the negativity in their heads first and they just couldn't cope with things in their lives that other people go through and come out unscathed.
I don't know and neither do I care which comes first, the circumstance or the emotion. What I do know is that we humans are capable of things that we didn't even know we could do. We can be strong. And though sometimes we cannot change things, we can change what we think about things. I always tell myself that "Nobody can make me cry if I don't let them." It doesn't matter how hurt they make me feel, as long as I don't allow myself to feel hurt there is nothing they can do. You can't control or change what people think, say or do, but the one thing you can change is how YOU think. An old saying goes "If life gives you lemons, make lemonades". And that is exactly what you should do. No one lives a perfect life. NOBODY. So when things don't go according to plan, you can bet that out of the 7 billion over people in this world, at least someone else is feeling exactly the same way as you are.
You are not alone in this. So stop thinking that you are and WAKE UP and GET OUT of that hell hole that you are digging for yourself. If someone is bringing you down, why give them the satisfaction of successfully bringing you down. Go down fighting if you have to and who is to say that you won't win the fight?
Negativity, at the end of the day is really just a mindset. It doesn't matter what caused it because at the end of the day the one superhero who can put a stop to it is YOURSELF.
I will be writing more about how to deal with negativity so stay tuned alright? And for those of you out there who have stumbled upon this post, HOLD ON, we'll get you out of there. :)
Love,
MM
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